Change
Change is the only constant thing in life, one of my old bosses taught me this, and he is totally correct.
It's something that is also tough to get to grips with as we are all designed in a certain way, we all have a certain code, but the reality is that this code is always adapting and changing.
And that change, for some, can be super scary, when for others it comes more naturally. Regardless, it’s something we all need to accept and let change organically take it’s course, as we have no control over it. And, as scary as it is, it’s also fantastic as it teaches us that we cannot control everything, and once we let that go - we can do wonderful things.
How constant change has always been a part of my life
Since I was a young boy, I've had to get used to change due to different family situations and from a young age naturally we became very agile people. Little did I know I was learning the most important skills I would take with me into my future.
I completely understand how many people cannot do that. Even now I'm happy to make new friends and do new things all the time whilst others around me can't understand or appreciate that because they are so stuck to one thing. The bottom line is we all go through change, sometimes it's for the better and sometimes it's for the worse, but that doesn't mean it's not going to happen.
As I have grown I have lost friends and made friends and that is likely to continue for life. There are friends that are great to have from a younger age, and you do build on those relationships if they are healthy. However, sometimes people just grow apart, and there is no problem in that. If you don’t see each other as much, it’s most likely because things in your life and theirs have changed so much. It is important to know that people will always have an opinion; the key is to accept the change and do what is best for you.
Accepting change
Like I stated earlier, this is one of the biggest challenges for any human being to go through. It's extremely difficult, but it's necessary.
We aren't always going to have and be around the same people, job, family and financial circumstances; that's just inevitable.
I, myself, have had to accept and emotionally accept a lot of change throughout my life, but this is a common thing and the best way to deal with it is to go with it. If it's dangerous, obviously, your instinct and nature will kick in to protect yourself for the better, but if it's just organic then just let it flow.
Changing for the better
Sometimes the change is very tough, like a family member passing or you getting married and leaving your parents, ending a friendship or relationship, leaving a job etc. And these, without doubt, are all hard and probably most challenging, but as long as it’s for the best and it’s healthy for you, then aim to change for the better.
Nothing is forever, change is always going to occur and the best advice I can give anyone is to listen to your gut and let nature take it’s course
Thank you for reading and I hope you have enjoyed today’s topic.
Written by Suraj Ghumra.